When a person believes they are alone, they do terrible things to themselves and to the society around them. They hate society because it is a symbol of togetherness that they think is arbitrarily denied them. They may even lash out at society. Sometimes they destroy themselves like a roman candle. Sometimes, it is far worse.
Now listen here, you.
- Some people are paid (not especially well, but it is their civic duty) to help people who are alone. Social workers. Nurses. Coaches. Teachers. Even people behind the bar, but The Bar has a rarified atmosphere and you might well end up with more problems than you bargained for there. So go there only after you’ve spoken with the teachers.
- Some people run clubs for people who are all interested in the same thing. Sometimes the clubs are called Teams, and they play football. Sometimes they’re called Militias and they play Cowboys and Indians or something, iunno. But there’s clubs for everyone.
Some people run churches, where people can be together and help each other. Sometimes those Churches are horrible and devastatingly fatuous, abusive or unworthy. Sometimes they are alright. Sometimes the churches can have different names, like ‘Mosque’ or ‘Temple’. Sometimes they are humble Synagogues in terraced houses. Sometimes they are humanist centres of togetherness. Sometimes they are Hindu or Sikh, sometimes Jain, sometimes the Quaker houses hold meetings for the Society of Friends on one night and then have some chakra-healing yoga goddess renting the space to teach her class on the next. And they don’t feel hypocritical, because the Quakers, at least, know that God is Love.
I have no answers for you, if you feel alone. I am an internet stranger. So you must be brave. Most people can suffer hardship while they are going through hell. The places above might be able to help you.
Just remember, You are not alone.